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Increasing Confidence: Lead From Your True Self, Not Your Small Self

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You are strolling along a beach close to where the waves roll into a frothy finish. Your bare feet sink into the wet sand with each footstep that you take. You feel one with the vast expanse of sky, sand and sea. Your heart is vibrant with joy, your mind is at peace. With increasing confidence, you know that there is something bigger for you to do. You see or sense a fuller version of you.

Yet, in the cold light of day, after breakfast when you sit at your computer and attempt to do your work, the clarity fades. Doubts set in. Indecision mounts. Taking action resembles a beginning golfer taking multiple swipes before he or she hits the ball just a few feet with a clod of turf. Your small self has taken over yet again.

The problem is that many of us aren’t adept at catching our small self when it slips into the driver’s seat of our life, especially in our business or career. The more you want something, especially something that demands that you take risks, be vulnerable and put yourself on the line financially, the more likely it is that your small self will sneak in to save you from oblivion.

Would you like to experience more of your clear, confident and courageous true self? Who wouldn’t?!

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Stop Negative Thinking: Develop Mind Awareness

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blue sky with clouds - stop negative thinking, develop mind awarenessDoes your mind sometimes drive you to distraction? How often do you catch yourself worrying, imagining negative outcomes or getting upset when what you want is not happening. Discover how mind awareness can help you to stop negative thinking.

Maybe you are good and catching your negative thoughts. But when you catch yourself, do you stop negative thinking? Or, do you just pick up where you left off on the downward spiral of worry, fear and negative mind talk? I don’t really like the term negative thinking. It sounds heavy and judgmental. But I know I can feel pretty heavy when I start worrying or judging reality.

So what to do? First of all, congratulate yourself, because if you’re reading this article you have probably moved, for the most part, out of the first stage of mind awareness.

Here are the first three stages of mind awareness: [Read more…] about Stop Negative Thinking: Develop Mind Awareness

How to Shift from Fear to Love

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Pink HeartDo you have days when you wake up in the morning with all your fears hammering around in your head? You feel a sense of dread. How are you going to get rid of the fear? You so want to have a great day. You so want to feel confident, energized, motivated and full of love.

All the emotions we can ever feel boil down to two very opposite states of being: we can either be in fear or love. When your fears take over, you feel heavy, small, everything is an effort. Your mind keeps reverting to the worst scenario as your most likely outcome. You know if you have any hope of success, you have to think positive, but trying to do so is like lugging a sack of stones up a slippery hill. Love seems to be as distant a destination as a glimmering star in the night sky.

So how do you shift from fear to love?

Here are two ways: [Read more…] about How to Shift from Fear to Love

Not Taking Action? Start Where You Are

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Video Interview Youtube Overcoming Self Doubt“There’s always something in my life that I’m unhappy about so I can’t create,” bemoaned a new client of mine. She had a job that she didn’t like and by the time she got home for the evening she felt drained and uninspired. 

What keeps pulling you deep down in your heart? Something you know you are really meant to be doing, that gets you all fired up, yet, much to your frustration, you are still not doing it.

Maybe you blame your lack of action on your relationship, or lack of one. You think that you don’t have the time or the money. Or is it that you don’t feel that you’re good enough? You have difficulty trusting and believing in yourself.  [Read more…] about Not Taking Action? Start Where You Are

Say Goodbye to Self Doubt and Trust Yourself

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Orange poppy in full bloomHappy New Year!!! May this be your best year ever! We all have the potential to experience our best year ever. The beginning of each new year offers us a tiny window of opportunity to believe this time it could be different – before the doubts set in.

Self doubt is a big reason why some of us don’t make the changes that we really want to make, or get disappointed because our dreams don’t come true – yet again. It’s especially easy to waver on your commitment when there is a big contrast between what you really want and the way your life is now. You start to question your abilities, or even question what you really want and the direction you need to take.

A flood of reasons why having what you really want would be hard, or even impossible fills your mind, conveniently keeping you safe in your not so comfortable comfort zone.

What if you did really trust yourself? What would trusting yourself look or feel like? When you trust yourself, you are able to make decisions, trust your decisions and choices, then act on them.

The habit of self doubt can make it hard to really value, or even know your gifts. You feel like “something” is blocking you from really putting yourself out there and making a successful career with your innate gifts, passions and talents. [Read more…] about Say Goodbye to Self Doubt and Trust Yourself