Nicola Walker Coaching

Mindset Coach, intuitive clarity, purpose, joy

Joy

Open to Joy and Thrive

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A bountiful green tree joyfully thriving on a beach by the sea.You get what you focus on. When you focus on survival, that’s what you get. You survive. You just get by with the relief of nothing terrible happening. Joy is a luxury for a survival mindset. Joy is essential for a thriving mindset. Open to joy and thrive.

When we depend on circumstances to look a certain way for us to feel joy, we rarely experience joy.

Thriving is all about your mindset. See yourself with plenty of everything you need and want. See more than enough.

It takes courage and willingness to disengage from the insistent pull of practical reality and choose to create what we want to see and experience. This is not about becoming an ostrich, burying your head in the sand. It’s simply about getting curious to explore what both and would look and feel like.

Imagine that you paint your life to live it. What do you want to paint?

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Your First Step Towards Joy

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hands full of pastel colored rose petals

Joy is such a high emotion that many people think of it as belonging in the realm of shooting stars and giddy heights such as falling love or winning the lottery. Your first step towards joy is willingness to experience it, despite circumstances and conditions.

For a deeply spiritual friend of mine, joy wasn’t her word. Highs for her are peace, connection and contentment. Her traumatic childhood has made it harder for her to be fully in her body and soar into ecstatic heights of bliss.

Yet, this same friend dissolves into smiles and joyful laughter when she sees cute kids. Captivated, she often walks up to the parent, with exclamations of delight.

Could it be that we sometimes miss our moments of joy because our mind has ruled out the possibility of experiencing it?

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Not Feeling Joy in Life: Find Your Truth and Live The Full You

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Sunlit Path in Redwoods - when not feeling joy in life, find your truth

Have you noticed that you are not feeling joy in life? If you yearn for a sense of completeness and a richer, fuller life, choose to honor your truth. Discover how to find your real truth, the truth that makes you feel alive, rather than the false truth that flattens you.

Many years ago, unhappy in my marriage and not feeling joy in life, I attended a personal growth workshop where I burst into tears, sobbing that I was “living half a life.” My words seem to land in every woman’s heart that day. One of them approached me later to say that she realized that she too was living half a life. She promptly announced that she was leaving her job and moving. She drove off to live in another city. I faced the truth of how I really felt about my marriage and ended it. This was the right choice for me at the time, and in retrospect.

Since then, I have had billions of opportunities to face my truth. Each day, I have to find what is true for me. Sometimes my truth is obvious; my truth moves me into action that feels good and right. Other times I can wrestle with my truth, trying to convince myself that it’s really something else. I don’t know quite why I’m sometimes unwilling to face my truth, because I suffer the consequences. I feel small, incapable, confused, anxious, tired and don’t enjoy life. However, when I find, face and follow my truth, I feel alive, vibrant and joyful. I am courageous and free inside, which results in me feeling enriched by who I am and by the richness of life.

If you are not feeling joy in life, take some time to reflect on what is going on in your heart.

Most importantly, find and honor your truth. Follow the career that calls you deep in your heart, make your business joyful, or launch yourself into the special project that makes your heart sing. Life is too short to settle for second best.

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Your Joy is Your Support System for Your Soul-Inspired Dream Career

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Distant sunset over hills and ocean“Creating your soul-inspired dream career while doing a day job? – Even your highest destiny can’t land in your hands when you’re drained, disconnected and frustrated. Burnout looms closer than dreams come true.”

OK. You’re all juiced up with the vision that is forming inside of you, your inner calling, the life that is a perfect match for your soul and so much more exciting and more meaningful than your current life. Like a distant beacon of light on a far-off hilltop, your dream life pulsates, beckoning you to clamber over the rocks and brambles to claim your deepest truth and highest destiny.

Then, as desire and ambition flood your being, your mind feverishly trying to work out how and when, you suddenly find yourself feeling drained and hopelessly human. The beacon of light remains just as distant as before, even when you start to move stealthily towards it. Is it a golden carrot that beams before you like a cosmic tease, so beyond the confines of reality that it belongs to the world of unicorns, life on stars and big ideas that go pop in the night?

When the delicate balance between moving towards your dream life, your soul-inspired dream career, the deepest truth in your heart and doing your day job or whatever practical considerations you have right now becomes out of whack, you have to look at the warning lights instead. Even your highest destiny can’t land in your hands when you’re drained, disconnected and frustrated. Burn-out is not an option.

The key to sanity and success in following your new soul-inspired direction in life is to weave in your joy, to let joy be your balm, your freedom and your best friend. Many people ignore their joy just to get everything done, do the right thing, be responsible, feel safe and to cling to their fears. They mistakenly think that their to-do list or financial security come first. Yet, part of them is dying of thirst, starved of nectar, even on the path to golden lands.

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