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Our Deepest Desires Can Trigger Our Fears

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Woman sitting on top of rocky outcrop contemplating sweeping vistas, as she faces the vast unknown in her life.If you want to feel inspired and alive, focus on what you most deeply desire and notice what happens. Do you feel excited, nervous or conflicted? Our deepest desires can trigger our fears.

Whatever you notice is like gold when you have the courage to drop deep into your truth, face your fears, unravel doubts and limiting beliefs and follow what calls you.

Following what calls you gives you a sense of purpose and meaning. Purpose  ignites a glow of joy in your heart, that comes from knowing something is right for you, even if it feels daunting. Your journey becomes an evolutionary adventure in strengthening trust in yourself and the Universe.

Trust and the courage to step out of your comfort zone and listen to your intuition is never a one shot deal.

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Navigating Fears and Doubts

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Sailing out to blue sea with wind in sailsImagine you’re on an unfamiliar beach, gazing out at the waves gently rolling in onto the shore. You’re wondering whether it’s safe to swim. What if there are undercurrents that could sweep you out to sea or drag you under? Navigating fears and doubts are like those unseen undercurrents, lurking beneath the surface of your dreams and goals.

You can ignore them and swim anyway, but your unconscious mind has the power to drag you down or hold you back.

You have to develop the mind awareness and intuitive discernment to spot that you have undercurrents rippling through you like waves of resistance.

How can you have fears and doubts when you are following your heart?

It’s an all too human paradox.

The fears you are experiencing are not usually the kind that make you break out in a sweat and shake. You might not even realize you are experiencing fears and doubts. You just find it hard to act on your intentions. Often, you  waver and distract yourself, spinning your wheels as you face the same view of yourself and your life each day.

Sound familiar?

What your deepest desires and goals want is simple — you.

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Not Feeling Joy in Life: Find Your Truth and Live The Full You

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Sunlit Path in Redwoods - when not feeling joy in life, find your truth

Have you noticed that you are not feeling joy in life? If you yearn for a sense of completeness and a richer, fuller life, choose to honor your truth. Discover how to find your real truth, the truth that makes you feel alive, rather than the false truth that flattens you.

Many years ago, unhappy in my marriage and not feeling joy in life, I attended a personal growth workshop where I burst into tears, sobbing that I was “living half a life.” My words seem to land in every woman’s heart that day. One of them approached me later to say that she realized that she too was living half a life. She promptly announced that she was leaving her job and moving. She drove off to live in another city. I faced the truth of how I really felt about my marriage and ended it. This was the right choice for me at the time, and in retrospect.

Since then, I have had billions of opportunities to face my truth. Each day, I have to find what is true for me. Sometimes my truth is obvious; my truth moves me into action that feels good and right. Other times I can wrestle with my truth, trying to convince myself that it’s really something else. I don’t know quite why I’m sometimes unwilling to face my truth, because I suffer the consequences. I feel small, incapable, confused, anxious, tired and don’t enjoy life. However, when I find, face and follow my truth, I feel alive, vibrant and joyful. I am courageous and free inside, which results in me feeling enriched by who I am and by the richness of life.

If you are not feeling joy in life, take some time to reflect on what is going on in your heart.

Most importantly, find and honor your truth. Follow the career that calls you deep in your heart, make your business joyful, or launch yourself into the special project that makes your heart sing. Life is too short to settle for second best.

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What Happens When You Block Your Feelings

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Sometimes people have told me that they block their feelings and emotions. I can understand the temptation at times, when you don’t want to rock the boat. Emotions can be messy, with no respect for perfect timing. You don’t want to blubber during a meeting with a prospective client who says, “No,” and your mortgage is due. Or, shout at your boss when you need your job. Or even listen to those feelings that something doesn’t feel right about your relationship when you’re just about to fly off on vacation.

So it’s natural to want to push down inconvenient feelings and emotions back where they came from. At least you can control pretending things are fine.

This might work for a while. But it’s a little like pushing down a ball in water. The greater the force you use to push it down, the greater the splash when it finally surfaces. And if the ball is there, it will emerge at some point.

Have you ever had a bunch of roses that didn’t all bloom? Sometimes you get one bud that just holds its petals tight, hiding its beauty from your eyes.

Feelings and emotions make you bloom and grow. They lead you into a vulnerable place where the light can shine through. You face the unknown, but it’s real. It’s exciting actually. If you like watching adventures on TV or the movies, you might enjoy your own. “Oh my God, what’s going to happen next?!”

I do believe that living your full bloom takes a lot of courage, but that’s what life is about. I’ve been totally committed to mine, even though this has meant facing fears on a more regular basis than some people might. Courage is a muscle you develop, just like learning to listen, trust and follow your inner guidance is a muscle. Discipline, persistence and choosing to find your way back to inner happiness are all muscles too.

One of the ways your inner wisdom speaks to you is through your feelings and sensations. If you block your feelings then you block your inner wisdom, which is like your life force. Your inner wisdom helps you to elevate your life beyond the mundane. It leads you to discover more about yourself, your heart and life itself by stepping through pain, facing the unknown and discovering the light.

 

Nicola Walker, apricot top, head and shoulders

Nicola Walker is an Anything is Possible mindset coach, with over 25 years of combined life coaching and hypnotherapy experience. She guides people at a turning point in life, to navigate and fulfill their dreams and deepest desires.

Nicola is the author of the forthcoming book, Joy in the Middle of the Mess: An Evolutionary Adventure on the Quest for Success. One of her greatest joys is to walk and hike in the hills and along the beautiful California beaches, near her home in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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