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Our Deepest Desires Can Trigger Our Fears

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Woman sitting on top of rocky outcrop contemplating sweeping vistas, as she faces the vast unknown in her life.If you want to feel inspired and alive, focus on what you most deeply desire and notice what happens. Do you feel excited, nervous or conflicted? Our deepest desires can trigger our fears.

Whatever you notice is like gold when you have the courage to drop deep into your truth, face your fears, unravel doubts and limiting beliefs and follow what calls you.

Following what calls you gives you a sense of purpose and meaning. Purpose  ignites a glow of joy in your heart, that comes from knowing something is right for you, even if it feels daunting. Your journey becomes an evolutionary adventure in strengthening trust in yourself and the Universe.

Trust and the courage to step out of your comfort zone and listen to your intuition is never a one shot deal.

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Honor Your Deepest Desires: Start with How You Want to Feel

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Heart in Sand. Honor your heartAs one year rolls into another, dreams that still beckon, unfulfilled desires, intentions and goals drift up into our mind and heart. We long to see them fulfilled and feel glimmers of possibility shimmer in the silence between doubts. Honor your deepest desires; start with how you want to feel.

Feelings are a portal to having. Our dreams and deepest desires can seem like they are a long way from us, living in a misty future that may or may not happen.

It’s helpful to begin with what you don’t want, what’s not working out, what you’re fed up with.

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Making Peace with Now, Even When What You REALLY Want is Different

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Stepping stones across stream“You don’t have to have an ideal life, which appears to be the pinnacle of perfection. You are also not a failure if you don’t yet have the life you really want. You just want to be creating the life you really want.”

If you are focusing on what you really want, it stands to reason that you don’t have it now. So why pin yourself to the wall with an imaginary knife, twisting it round saying, “How could you have landed up in a marriage where you still feel lonely?”, “How could you have taken so long to be doing work that’s deeply fulfilling?”, “How could you be once again starting over, trying to find your way?” or “How could you still not be doing what you really want to be doing?”

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Can You Want Something Too Much?

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Have you ever found yourself wanting something so much that you lose your center? If you’ve waited a long while for something you really want, you may have a lot of emotional charge around the thing you most desire, whether it’s money, love, a particular job, a career break, the opportunity to travel. As soon as you catch yourself caught in some in between world that is not the present or the future, it’s time to loosen your grip.

Why? Because when you want something so much that it becomes agonizing or upsetting, you could be pushing what you most want away from you. This is what is meant by needing to let go of attachment. Also, if you’re not fully present, lost in your thoughts of what may or may not happen, then you’re not fully present to your inner wisdom that can effectively guide you to fulfillment.

You’ll know when you want your desired outcome too much, if you notice that your body is tense, that your mind is racing through all the years that what you want has eluded you, how difficult it’s been, maybe fears about what if it never happens? Your attention is more on how your desire has not happened or may not happen, than how it is going to happen. So how can your desires happen through so much tension, fear, mental stories and projections? I know for myself that all the best things have happened when I’ve been relaxed, not even thinking about how much I want something.

This is the ideal way to hold what you most desire. Check to see if this is true for you:

The desire is in your heart. It feels good. You believe it can be yours.
Then you let go, knowing it will show up in good time.

If you find that you still feel very attached to what you want showing up, so that it’s hard to just let go and trust that your desire is on its way, then examine your fears more closely. Your fears are like a wall between where you are now, and having what you want. Fears are illusions, but they seem real when you are emotionally invested in them, when they have carved well-worn pathways in your brain.

Write down each fear so you look it fully in the face. Then see which fears you can fully get rid of.

A lot of fears do dissolve when you shine a light on them — the light of wisdom and awareness.

 

Nicola Walker, apricot top, head and shoulders

Nicola Walker is an Anything is Possible mindset coach, with over 25 years of combined life coaching and hypnotherapy experience. She guides people at a turning point in life, to navigate and fulfill their dreams and deepest desires.

Nicola is the author of the forthcoming book, Joy in the Middle of the Mess: An Evolutionary Adventure on the Quest for Success. One of her greatest joys is to walk and hike in the hills and along the beautiful California beaches, near her home in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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