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Finding Purpose is About More Than Just Your Work

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Woman sitting on front of wooden boat sailing towards sunsetI often hear people say that they want to find their purpose. Their job doesn’t fulfill them anymore, if it ever did. They are at a turning point, adrift in a world filled with a dizzying array of choices. There is something their heart longs for, or wants more of. Their key is to discover that finding purpose is about more than just your work.

They start to see their job as an albatross around their neck. The pull of financial needs makes them think that they are trapped, as if they’re in a boat with an oar stuck in the mud, held back from the richness of life’s experiences and their own potential.

On a human level, this is a painful place to be. We all want to make the most of our lives, find happiness and give our dreams a chance, if we know what they are. It’s tempting to interpret the gap between where we are and where we want to be as a yawning pit of failure and bemoan how hard life can be.

Finding purpose is about more than just your work. Once you get the influence your thoughts have on your reality, you discover a purpose that becomes your key to the life you want.

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Choose Self Love vs. Self Judgment to Fulfill Your Dreams

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Pink lotus in pond with lily padsSelf love is the antidote to self judgment. When we let our critical mind run wild, it will likely pick us to pieces and leave our dreams strewn in tatters.

Why? Because self judgment is a toxin. It poisons your thoughts, muddies your instincts and clouds your vision. Your vehicle is like a spluttering engine that might take you down the road, but will never make it to your chosen destination.

It’s much easier to create and attract something you deeply desire whether it is a job or business you love, ideal clients, a quality relationship or an upturn in health and prosperity when your thoughts are aligned with love and appreciation.

You create your reality by transforming your thoughts.

It is an act of self love to gently guide your mind away from painful, negative thoughts to recognize what is well and good in your life.

By choosing self love versus self judgment, you begin to steer yourself towards moments of inexplicable joy.

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Create Your Dream Career – Grow Yourself to Match Your Dream

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woman with laptop relaxing while working on beach

Life is too short and precious to spend it in soul-sucking jobs, or a business that drags you down, or splutters in fits and starts, like the engine of an old car on a bitterly cold, snowy morning. Even the words job, business or work can sound dry. I prefer to focus on creating a dream career, that encompasses passion, purpose and a way of life that is filled with ease and joy.

Such a grand vision sounds pie in the sky, but if we don’t expand our minds to imagine what we would love to experience, we will never get close to the rich, fulfilling life we could actually enjoy.

A dream career is a creative process. Let your dream be as big as it wants to be. Then grow yourself to match your dream.

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Making Peace with Now, Even When What You REALLY Want is Different

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Stepping stones across stream“You don’t have to have an ideal life, which appears to be the pinnacle of perfection. You are also not a failure if you don’t yet have the life you really want. You just want to be creating the life you really want.”

If you are focusing on what you really want, it stands to reason that you don’t have it now. So why pin yourself to the wall with an imaginary knife, twisting it round saying, “How could you have landed up in a marriage where you still feel lonely?”, “How could you have taken so long to be doing work that’s deeply fulfilling?”, “How could you be once again starting over, trying to find your way?” or “How could you still not be doing what you really want to be doing?”

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Can You Want Something Too Much?

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Have you ever found yourself wanting something so much that you lose your center? If you’ve waited a long while for something you really want, you may have a lot of emotional charge around the thing you most desire, whether it’s money, love, a particular job, a career break, the opportunity to travel. As soon as you catch yourself caught in some in between world that is not the present or the future, it’s time to loosen your grip.

Why? Because when you want something so much that it becomes agonizing or upsetting, you could be pushing what you most want away from you. This is what is meant by needing to let go of attachment. Also, if you’re not fully present, lost in your thoughts of what may or may not happen, then you’re not fully present to your inner wisdom that can effectively guide you to fulfillment.

You’ll know when you want your desired outcome too much, if you notice that your body is tense, that your mind is racing through all the years that what you want has eluded you, how difficult it’s been, maybe fears about what if it never happens? Your attention is more on how your desire has not happened or may not happen, than how it is going to happen. So how can your desires happen through so much tension, fear, mental stories and projections? I know for myself that all the best things have happened when I’ve been relaxed, not even thinking about how much I want something.

This is the ideal way to hold what you most desire. Check to see if this is true for you:

The desire is in your heart. It feels good. You believe it can be yours.
Then you let go, knowing it will show up in good time.

If you find that you still feel very attached to what you want showing up, so that it’s hard to just let go and trust that your desire is on its way, then examine your fears more closely. Your fears are like a wall between where you are now, and having what you want. Fears are illusions, but they seem real when you are emotionally invested in them, when they have carved well-worn pathways in your brain.

Write down each fear so you look it fully in the face. Then see which fears you can fully get rid of.

A lot of fears do dissolve when you shine a light on them — the light of wisdom and awareness.

 

Nicola Walker, apricot top, head and shoulders

Nicola Walker is an Anything is Possible mindset coach, with over 25 years of combined life coaching and hypnotherapy experience. She guides people at a turning point in life, to navigate and fulfill their dreams and deepest desires.

Nicola is the author of the forthcoming book, Joy in the Middle of the Mess: An Evolutionary Adventure on the Quest for Success. One of her greatest joys is to walk and hike in the hills and along the beautiful California beaches, near her home in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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