Do you have days when you wake up in the morning with all your fears hammering around in your head? You feel a sense of dread. How are you going to get rid of the fear? You so want to have a great day. You so want to feel confident, energized, motivated and full of love.
All the emotions we can ever feel boil down to two very opposite states of being: we can either be in fear or love.
When your fears take over, you feel heavy, small, everything is an effort. Your mind keeps reverting to the worst scenario as your most likely outcome. You know if you have any hope of success, you have to think positive, but trying to do so is like lugging a sack of stones up a slippery hill. Love seems to be as distant a destination as a glimmering star in the night sky.
So how do you shift from fear to love?
Here are two ways:
One is to shine a flashlight on the fear. Write it down and then ask yourself if it is really true. Feel into your heart. You will know the answer.
The second way, which is good to do in addition to the first way so that the residue of fear can really be washed away from your body, is to devote some loving time to yourself.
You might think you don’t have time to be loving towards yourself, you have people to see, places to be, deadlines to meet. Yet if you keep the energy of fear running through you throughout all your busyness, you won’t be free to feel confident, energized, motivated and full of love.
Immerse yourself in love by taking a love break. The key to a good love break is the thinking that lies behind it. It goes like this:
“I am letting go of everything I want, need and have to do. I am giving myself the gift of being still inside myself, immersed in the present moment. I am on vacation. There is nothing to achieve, simply to be and enjoy.”
Here are three 10 minute love breaks that I enjoyed recently:
- I curled up in bed with a couple of my favorite personal growth authors, Wayne Dyer and Eckhart Tolle. I opened the book, asking to be shown just what I needed to read. Each time, I found a message that was perfect. My heart warmed and opened up with a sense of love and peace. The truth does that for you.
- I made a cup of tea and sat out on the deck watching birds fly from the branch of one tall dark pine tree to another. I felt the sun warm my skin and feasted on the calm blue of the vast sky. If it hadn’t have been sunny or warm, I would have sat on a favorite chair near the window and gazed out at the misty trees or dripping leaves.
- I played some soft music and did some yoga on my mat. With each stretch, I imagined the love that is everywhere seep into my body, especially the parts that I was stretching. I breathed in love and breathed out the fatigue of fears. I felt the love heal and enliven me.
The aim of love breaks is to return to that knowing deep down inside that all is right with the world, however it looks. You are in the perfect place. You are totally taken care of. You have the strength, wisdom and ability to do what you need to do to give your gifts to the world and create the success that is yours to enjoy.
You can face the fear head on and find out what is really true. And / or recognize your cue to turn up the love. Choose your three favorite ways to be loving with yourself now.
Nicola Walker has been an inner freedom coach and hypnotherapist for nearly 20 years. She is the author of the upcoming book, Joy in the Middle of the Mess: An Evolutionary Quest From Self Doubt to Success. She has developed her own method for connecting with intuitive wisdom to get clarity on challenges and decisions. Nicola works with entrepreneurs and leaders who want to increase confidence and belief in themselves, while exploring solutions to the pressures and stresses of success. She guides her clients to confidently move forward so they can experience true success, freeing them to love their life while doing the work that is meaningful to them.