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When Negative Emotions Keep Coming Back

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green leaves growing out of soil in palm of hands symbolizing new growth after self compassionate communication with negative emotionsMost of us have experienced an irritating situation that sticks around way too long. Our emotions keep resurfacing whenever we think about it, even when we try to think differently. When negative emotions keep coming back, it’s a sign to take some time to communicate with the part of you who’s in pain.

You can be with the part of you that is hurting in such a way that makes it easier to feel and release the pent up emotions.

It’s about feeling the emotion and feeling heard and held at the same time. We can do this for each other, but sometimes you don’t have someone you can turn to and you need to do it for yourself.

So how do you be with the part of you that is hurting?

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How to Unwind When You Feel Stressed Out and Anxious

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Girl with head in hands on lake jetty sunset Image by Sasin Tipchai from Pixabay

You wish you could find it easier to unwind when you feel stressed out and anxious. Your body feels like a coiled spring. You feel stuck in your head, winding through the same mental loop over and over again. You try to unwind and relax, but you’re still tense and caught up in your thoughts.

Sometimes work and life get too much. It seems like everything’s coming at you at once. All your usual ways of dealing with stress don’t seem to be working. The more you feel stressed and anxious, the longer it takes to unwind. Yet, you don’t have the time.

Take a really deep breath.

When you feel stressed out and anxious, the key to unwinding is to be willing to let go of two things: 

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Self Care at Work: When You Feel Pressured and Stressed, Recharge Your Brain

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Still lake image for self care at workWhen you feel pressured and stressed by work, life and all the nitty gritty details clamoring for attention, your nervous system and brain move into survival, perfect for putting out fires but hopeless for calming you down. Don’t keep pushing through the stress. One of the best things you can do for self care at work is to stop and take a rest to recharge your brain.

A lot of people get used to feeling stressed and easily burdened by everything they think they need to do. Stress becomes the norm, and change is merely variations to the levels of stress they feel moment to moment. The tragic side to this is that their intuitive wisdom and natural brilliance is trapped inside their stress response.

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Self Care During the Holidays: Five Ways to Return to Peace

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Warmth of candle flame - self care during the holidaysEach year rolls into a whirlwind of light, dark, joy (for some) and overwhelm in the final month of December. Practice self care during the holidays and remember to love yourself. It’s so easy to get blown away from your wise center by the surge of activity pulling you in a myriad of directions at this time of year.

This is a time when we become extremely vulnerable to the sadness in our life as well as the opportunities for joy and connection. If you have lost a loved one, especially recently, the glaring gap that was once filled by their presence is extremely painful. If you don’t have family, a partner or friends to be with, it is easy to feel lonely and isolated.

As daylight contracts to its smallest offering and the sun is often blanketed by cloud, it is natural to want to give yourself some quiet time, your own version of hibernation. This is why it is always so important to know how to practice self care during the holidays and return to peace.

This dark end to the year is also the season of the light. Light is available to us all. We are made of light. If you feel like you have wandered away from the light, you can choose to turn it on again. Being with those you love, sparkling at parties and the warm glow of holiday gatherings is one way to light up your heart. However, it is good to know how to also find peace, love and light when you are alone, especially when you feel stressed, sad or lonely.

Here are five ways you can practice self care during the holidays so you can return to peace, light and love:

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