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Feeling Stuck in the Same Old Patterns: How to Move Forward into Something New and Joyful

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Pink Rose Is that “got to do something about this now” feeling beating in your heart? When you are feeling stuck in the same old patterns, it’s important to remember that you CAN move forward.  You can leap out of your life into something new, vital and joyful once you know where to begin.

Most people begin with their frustration over feeling stuck in the same old patterns. The bigger your dreams and goals, the more you can get frustrated with feeling stuck in the same old patterns. It’s a vicious circle. What’s happening is that you are narrowing your focus in on what makes you irritated so much that you forget who you really are.

This may sound odd but you are not someone who is stuck. You are a brilliant, creative, powerful person who is on the verge of a breakthrough. No matter how you think of yourself, you fall short of seeing yourself and your abilities in their true light.

Feeling stuck in the same old patterns is an invitation to open up your heart and mind, instead of tightening them up with resistance to what is happening.

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Feeling rushed: How to slow down and find your natural pace in work and life

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Swan in still water, with reflection, the opposite of feeling rushedDo you sometimes feel like your time is not your own? From the moment you wake, you are feeling rushed by your agenda full of everything you have to attend to, racing you through the minutes and the hours until you look at the clock in amazement and dismay. What happened? You long to fit in yoga, meditation, reflection time with your journal, or a run in the park, yet once again your day ran away from you.

Whether you work on-site at a job or work from home with a job or your own business, it’s important to find your rhythm for doing your work and taking care of your body and soul.

Some people are fast-paced and others are more slow-paced. Whatever type you are, if you consistently overstretch your limit of what you can comfortably do, you may either burn out, or experience physical and emotional symptoms indicating that you’re out of balance.

Fast-paced people may find that they don’t notice the warning signs when they are piling on too much and starting to burn out. Slow-paced people can often push themselves so they can keep up with other people’s standards for productivity while judging themselves for being the way they are.

Eventually, if you keep pushing yourself and feel rushed a lot of the time, you get so out of sync with yourself that you get tired, sick or even injure yourself. Often people injure ankles and knees, which are about fear of moving forward. Or, they have back or shoulder pain from carrying too much on their shoulders.

Slow down and move at your natural pace rather than letting the world dictate your pace. [Read more…] about Feeling rushed: How to slow down and find your natural pace in work and life

Making Peace with Now, Even When What You REALLY Want is Different

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Stepping stones across stream“You don’t have to have an ideal life, which appears to be the pinnacle of perfection. You are also not a failure if you don’t yet have the life you really want. You just want to be creating the life you really want.”

If you are focusing on what you really want, it stands to reason that you don’t have it now. So why pin yourself to the wall with an imaginary knife, twisting it round saying, “How could you have landed up in a marriage where you still feel lonely?”, “How could you have taken so long to be doing work that’s deeply fulfilling?”, “How could you be once again starting over, trying to find your way?” or “How could you still not be doing what you really want to be doing?”

Here are 3 enriching practices to make peace with your current reality, while creating what you really want: [Read more…] about Making Peace with Now, Even When What You REALLY Want is Different

How to Rediscover Life’s Magic – Part One: How Present Are You?

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In my last post, What Happened to Life’s Magic?, I wrote about how I suddenly lost my sense of magic in life. Everything became very flat, and to my alarm, simple things that used to give me pleasure didn’t seem to do so anymore. Fortunately, I turned to my inner wisdom for help. The first thing that I was directed to focus on was my attention. Where was it?!

I realized that my attention was focused on my worries and concerns. The challenges and problem solving I was facing at the time led me to focus more on my concerns than simply being present in the here and now. My energy was caught up in my head, with my thoughts, instead of being present throughout my body.

It may sound like a subtle distinction because we all face challenges that we need to deal with. But all you need to do is set aside time to deal with whatever’s bothering you, then let go of it and return to enjoying the present moment.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself just to see if you do let go of your challenges:

How much time do you spend feeling flat and uninspired?

Are you someone who often replays past events, cringing because of something you said, or fretting about something someone said to you?

Do you sometimes find yourself impatiently counting the days, months or years until a certain longed for event happens?

When you focus more on the future than the present, or more on the past than the present, you have a strong sign that you need to put your attention on finding life’s magic again. Now.

Magic happens in the present, and you need to be present to enjoy it.

Here are three steps you can take to step fully into the present:

1.         Slow down and take some deep breaths.

2.         Feel your feet on the ground and feel the ground beneath your feet for at least a minute.

3.         Move your awareness into your body, your legs, your pelvis, your tummy, your chest, your shoulders, your neck, your head and your back and your arms and hands.

Notice how being present feels different to how you were feeling before you took this three steps.

When you slow down, you feed your soul.

You create your future from what you think and do in the present. So the present moment is truly sacred. To experience true inner happiness, you need to be present and to embrace the present.

In my blog post, next Tuesday, I’ll talk more about feeding your soul.