Nicola Walker Coaching

Mindset Coach, intuitive clarity, purpose, joy

acceptance

Thank Yourself for Being You

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Thank yourself for being you. Often, we are so overly outer-focused that we miss the miracle of our own existence. You are here to discover and enjoy who you really are.

The more you appreciate yourself, the easier it is to feel and follow your heart’s wisdom. Your heart is your greatest navigational tool for life.

Are you at peace with who you are?

You can only ever be you, no matter how much you sometimes wish that weren’t the case.

One of the barriers to appreciating yourself is self judgment. When you judge yourself, you lose precious moments and turn down dead end roads. Self judgment is a habit, stuck in old neural pathways formed from past, painful events.

You can heal and transform the habit of being mean towards yourself and learn to see yourself in your true light. [Read more…] about Thank Yourself for Being You

Self Compassion: A Calming Balm for Your Nervous System

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Recently, I had an interaction with another person that rattled me and left my nervous system feeling shaken. I calmed and centered myself afterwards but a shakiness and depressive feelings kept returning. I noticed that I had added another piece – feeling disappointed in myself for not recovering quicker. It seemed that my mind was gathering more reasons to feel sad. It was time for some self compassion.

There are parts of ourselves that don’t care so much about being powerful and managing our energy to achieve great things in the world.

These parts of us just want to feel safe and loved. Especially when our nervous system is jangled.

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How to Stop Beating Yourself Up for Taking So Long

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Sitting on the Fence“Finding and following your inner calling is different for everyone, so that’s why comparing yourself to others is just being cruel to yourself and so not the point.”

“I actually felt shame about having taken so long,” a client admitted the other day. “I’ve been sitting on the fence, but I couldn’t get clear enough to move forward with what’s been calling me.”

My heart was wide open feeling the pain of her shame. I immediately guided her to be gentle with herself, to help her see that the unfolding of her passionate purpose has been perfect, that there is always a larger picture where so many things you wouldn’t even think of need to happen before you can be ready to take those first steps.

“It’s different for everyone,” I said, “so that’s why comparing yourself to others is just being cruel to yourself and so not the point.”

The call of your heart speaks in whispers, nudges and yearnings. It evolves and takes shape with its own timing as you take the steps to meet it. Listen to your heart – it is showing you the way to live your purpose. You could feel drawn to write, to paint, to speak in front of groups, to travel, to interview people, to be part of the solution to a social or environmental issue, to invent something that you keep imagining and long to make real.

Whatever pulls you and speaks to you is an ingredient of your vision. It will either be part of the life that is perfect for your soul or will help you to get closer to following your inner calling.

The greatest advance you can make is to love yourself for being exactly where you are. [Read more…] about How to Stop Beating Yourself Up for Taking So Long